When I think of my hair journey it’s really been a doozy. In 2012 I did the baby chop (cut off all my relaxed hair)
I didn’t look back not once. Once I found out what was in those relaxers. I had to let creamy crack go. A silk press kept me going back then and it was good enough to exist in white spaces like work and in my community. Then in 2015 I had my son and I realized I didn’t want to have to be comfortable in white spaces by changing the way my hair grew from my head and so I went natural I didn’t understand hair care much then but you tube girlies got me right or so I thought but learning how to do my hair while learning how to be a mom was difficult so I started to get sew-ins. These were less upkeep than silk presses and still allowed me to be in white spaces without criticism or hardship.
I know it seems silly to say hardship but truly working during this time in a state like Oklahoma you would get it from older Black women and white women. Hair was a big deal and you had to be presentable at all times. Natural hair was not presentable. Even my own father who FaceTimes me in my own home will ask me why my hair isn’t done. (It is done. It’s in an Afro dad!) so despite reading this in 2026 where several states (30) have the Crown Act, Oklahoma wasn’t then and still has not respected natural hair and protected Black women at work from facing discrimination or negative consequences due to the way she wears her hair.
Anyway I became an entrepreneur in 2017 and I consistently wore my natural hair. I enjoyed how free I felt to wear my hair the way it grew from my scalp. Zero guilt. Zero shame. I have to credit my kids for giving me that unfuckablewith attitude. I had to be strong enough to care for them and protect them. So that meant I had to protect and care for myself and that’s a topic for another post.
Celebrating World Afro Day in 2026 I’m happy to say that wearing my natural hair is such a delight and I cannot believe I ever thought I was more employable or likable with straight hair but that’s what America wanted.
I leave you with 2 things. Wear your hair how YOU want and don’t ever ever ever touch anyone’s hair. But ESPECIALLY not mine. 💋
I love you, I mean it
